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Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Healing Lies

Hey.. Peeps.. :) Um.. lets start this post with a question. So, here is my question: Do you use to lie?? I know you are saying yes in a mute volume.. Ain't it?? Okay.. for all those who say "yes"; I'll whisper to them: I also do. People use to lie.. some for good reasons n some for bad reasons. Some stumble over truth n pick themselves up as if nothing happened.

So is it a reason that makes people lie?? Or it is circumstances or it is involved in the nature of an individual?? I know this question is quite debatable. I can't answer it this soon. As I always say: "everything in this world has two aspects" 1. Good, 2. Bad. n we occasionally ignore one of them.. may be or may not be like "fool's paradise".

I believe lies have a good side also. Confused?? Lemme explain you with an example (before this example gets lost into the state of oblivion): A girl (age: 5 yrs.) is suffering from "thalassemia" has to go to the hospital every month  for "blood transfusion" n related check-ups.. she don't use to cry seeing a needle now, n gives her arms in hands of nurse before nurse asks her to do so. I was there.. I asked her mother: brave girl, she don't fear needles like other kids?? She said: yea may be.. We have lied to her that all this is to make her grow bigger.. We haven't told her about disease.. we fear to tell her truth. So will the truth make her go emotionally weaker?? I donno; I know a little lie is healing her, making her live.. she finds herself normal as other kids of her age. So, am I clear now??

I also use to lie (to be very honest) but I am sure if I lie then it don't hurt or harm anybody. There is a big difference between "hiding n lying" but some people mix these things. How to detect lies?? May be noticing: Avoidance of eye-contact?? Stammer while speaking or change of voice?? Body language?? Ah.. no!! There are experts in lying who don't ever stammer while lying, they can tell you lies with (even) double confidence n a perfect body language with regular eye contact.

There is a thing called: "micro-expressions" yea it can help you a lot. Paul Ekman: A psychologist who made studies on emotions and facial expressions is an expert enough to detect lies. He can read expressions. His book "Telling Lies" is a must read. It is stated: lies are something related to psychology. (I feel where science fails to give proofs; there comes the psychology).

I feel a lie takes place of "truth" when it is used for some good cause. People may find it absurd, but I feel what is the use of that truth that can cause destruction?? I know still some people will stick with their guns n say: "truth is truth n no lie can replace it". Um.. may be it is a topic of belief.. n it varies from individual to individual.

Secrecy & Privacy: Both are different things n people see it with same vision. Lemme explain you: Secrecy is something you hide n privacy is something you don't wanna tell. Confused again?? Okay have an example, I have read it somewhere: If you watch a porn on internet then it is your "privacy" (you enjoy it n it is not gonna harm or hurt anybody). If you hide your past relationship with your new GF/BF then it is "secrecy" (n it is definitely gonna bring heavy disaster in your life). I guess now I have cleared doubts between secrecy & privacy??

I believe: speak lies, have fun but to that limit where it entertains everybody, where it can assure you that it will not "yield you the future guilt", where it can replace truth in positive output. n if ever lied for something negative; then accept it, improve it before it brings you something you never wanna accept. Never buy the negative things that lies wanna sell you. Live life. Signing out.. may God bless y'all.. :) 

8 comments:

  1. even lord Krishna said that a lie that does something good is not a lie...and scientists believe that liars are actually smarter than those who stick to truths no matter what....

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  2. Yea I remember.. Thanks for commenting :)

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  3. I agree with you that lies can either be good or bad. And yes, lies are good if they are meant to save a life, just like the sick girl you mentioned in your post.

    Thank you for this very meaningful and thought-provoking post, Shreya! God bless! :-)

    Irene

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  4. Thanks for stopping by Irene. Glad to see your comment. :)

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  5. //If you watch a porn on internet then it is your "privacy" (you enjoy it n it is not gonna harm or hurt anybody)..// i don't think so..watching porn reflects sort of 'voyeuristic' behaviour and it can definitely harm others in the long run..
    nice post anyways..
    btw y turned philosophical all of a sudden?

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  6. @Nikhi: Yea may be in long run it can change your views but it won't harm as much as it is to hide your previous relations as I mentions in this post.
    Yea a bit philosophical.. I donno why?? Anyways, thanks for stopping by :)

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  7. Lies shouldnt hurt and more than that shoud never make you feel guilty. I once said a protective lie and was caught. Now regret ever sayign tht.

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  8. @Red Handed: Yea.. true. Thanks for stopping by.

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